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Father opens up about coming out to his 3 sons: I'm still the same dad as before

"Good Morning America" is featuring stories in celebration of Pride Month. Scott Takacs, a 46-year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons. Read about his journey below in his own words.

Coming out at 42

I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. It was 15 months later that I started that matching conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an 11-year-old.

The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the reality that at that aim in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions. There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man.

It had been a long 15 months since coming out to my wife, an trial I unfortunately wouldn't narrate as positive, fun or something I ever yearn to repeat. It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her wo

Help! My Son is Gay

by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

“So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the reply to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad undertake for his son? In a word:  connect!  I comprehend when saying that many dads might think, “I am connected to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being offer doesn’t mean you have any courteous of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can listen and understand. Proclamations of facts undertake little to advance his heart. He wants words dripping with raw sentiment and heart-felt infatuation. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and narrate him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you think he has what i

Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son

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His journey has been a catalyst for my possess journey to greater authenticity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a same-sex attracted son. My possess faith has blossomed and been renewed, and we are now part of a fully welcoming church where we have made marvelous new friends.

  • Briefly outline how your kid first came out to you and your initial reactions.

  • While on a church youth retreat, my son promised himself he would enter out to us (his parents) before leaving home after high school. He put it off until the last minute, and came to me slow at night after his father had already gone to bed. He said he had something to tell me. I could notice that he was shaking with dread . I told him whatever it was would not adjust my love for him. He said he “had struggled with homosexual feelings” since his first teens. As a psychologist, I had an intellectual comprehending of same-sex attraction so I tried to reassure him. He stopped me and said, “This is why I haven’t told

    How to Be a Gay Daddy 101 – Part 3: What Does a Daddy Do With a Boy?

    Our series on Daddy/boy relationships continues with this latest installment. In case you missed Parts One and Two:

    Part 1: Know Yourself, What You Explore , and Who’s Looking For You
    Part 2: Finding the Right (Adult) Boy for You

    Over the last 30 years, the ways gays self-identify has diversified almost exponentially. In the cold dawn of the ’80s, there weren’t many choices for men who prefer the company of men. There were so few in fact, that caricatures of those roles seemed to fit neatly in one vocal group: the Village People.

    Bear culture changed all that. And then along came puppies and handlers, and soon after, the daddy/boy dynamic appeared. Add to that such already well-established roles as master and slave, dom and sub, plushies and furries (those attracted to stuffed animals or dress enjoy school mascot variants) — and you have one very colorful patch of humanity.

    Over time, each of these subcultures has developed a code of conduct and their own rules of engagement. Yet very few individuals conform to all of them. The explanation for why is simple: One of the aspects of