Public gay cruise
11 things I learned on my first gay cruise
You've probably heard of lgbtq+ cruises and wondered how they differ from "traditional" cruises. Are they unlock to straight people? Is it all about partying? What about the hook-up element?
I sailed with tour operator Vacaya in February 2023 on a one-week gay cruise exiting from Fort Lauderdale and heading to the Caribbean via Celebrity Cruises' Famous person Reflection cruise ship. For context, I'm a white, cisgender, gay man in my mid-30s. I had a lot of questions about what to hope for , given this was my second cruise ever and my first one with a queer tour operator.
Here are the top things I'd want someone considering or planning their first gay cruise to know.
People are friendly
The first thing that struck me about the sailing was that almost everyone was smiling and eager to interact. As an Australian living in the U.S. for almost a decade, I generally identify Americans to be open, talkative and curious. This cruise was like that … on steroids.
I would have start it overwhelming if I weren't an extrovert, but since I'm a social butterfly, I was in heaven.
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Your Guide to Cruising
How to Cruise
Cruising has enter a long way since hanky code, polari, and subtle glances. There are lots of distinct locations to suit any preference, such as:
- Public bathrooms
- Cruising bars and clubs
- Gay saunas
- Cruising parks
- Gay cruising beaches
Not only can you meet guys in public spaces but in online ones too. For example, Grindr is essentially a cruising catalogue of who's around, and also a great tool to predetermine the location that you'll hang up in. You can also elect to cruise on alt twitter, a subsection of Twitter where people build mostly anonymous profiles, post spicy R18 content, and arrange hook ups or content collabs.
When it comes to universal spaces, it helps if there are other people there to cruise! Click here for a comprehensive list of places throughout Brand-new Zealand / Aotearoa that are established as cruising sites, or visit Squirt.org (this is a paid service) for more. Remember, you may also meeting people who aren’t looking to cruise so it’s crucial to know what signs to watch out for - read on to find out.
Cruising
This blog was written by our Sexual Health Outreach Worker, Chris Dunbar.
Sometimes, having sex in the safe confines of your bedroom just doesn’t cut it. You may be looking for somewhere new, seeking thrill or adventure, or just not be proficient to have the sex you want within your four walls. You may have heard someone talk about cruising, or contain been asked if you yearn to go, but what does it actually mean?
Let’s have a look together at what it means, the laws, and general safety if you do choose to give it a go.
Definition
Cruising is walking or driving about certain areas, called cruising grounds, looking for a sexual spouse. These meetings are usually one-off, anonymous encounters.
Cottaging is a word used to describe anonymous sex meetings in public toilets.
Where perform the terms come from?
Cruising: The word originated as a male lover slang term, sometime in the early 1960s, as a way for people who knew its meaning to arrange sexual meetings. It was a way to plan sexual encounters without attracting the attention of people who may wish to report them to the authorities, or inflict harm. The term is used many countries including the UK, the U
The Freddie Guide to: Cruising
What is gay cruising?
Straight cruising is a vacay on a boat. Gay cruising is the art of hooking up in general.
Cruising is almost always anonymous, and can be one-on-one, in groups, or with others watching. It’s done by using non-verbal cues to show you’re both interested – ponder of it like a secret, horny code. Some people will have sex right there, while some may take their match to a more subtle location.
Where did cruising approach from?
Cruising has a prolonged history in the lgbtq+ community. There are recorded cruising spots in cities like Toronto, London and New York dating endorse over a hundred years. In the time before gay bars, when homosexuality was illegal, public places were often the only option for queer people to meet each other.
Evidence for this often comes from prosecution records – we know where people were cruising based on arrests for “sodomy” or “gross indecency”. These were historic offences made to criminalize gay sex, and were almost exclusively applied to queer men. Sodomy and indecency laws were common throughout the British Empire, but have been repealed in most countries.
In the US, anti-sodomy laws were r